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Tuesday, May 22, 2007

7 Qualities of a Good Wife – Part I

Whether you’re a man looking for a good wife or a wife wanting to improve yourself, your marriage or your relationship – take a look at these 7 qualities of a good wife. Good fruit will come from these basic qualities anyone can develop.

7) Nag free. Ladies, a good wife is going to be nag free. Nagging is an ineffective method of trying to get your husband to perform a task you desire. Trust me ladies – it doesn’t work and often will have the opposite of its intended affect.

6) Supportive. Are you supportive? What does it mean to be supportive? Do you belittle your man or do you help him to feel good about himself, his job, activities? Your husband will be much more respectful or you if you support him. Even when you don’t agree with him – respectfully let him know you don’t agree – then support him anyway. Otherwise, if he has difficulties – he’ll feel as though you’re adding to his troubles.

5) Build up your man. Ladies, there’s no quicker way to build resentment in your man than to criticize him – especially in front of others. On the flip side – try genuinely complementing your husband in front of other people. Your husband will glow with admiration toward you and you’ll feel his appreciation as love.

4) Keep him happy in the bedroom. Unfortunately, many women underestimate the importance of keeping her man’s needs met. Often this comes from the basic differences in women and men. For men, sexual desire is much like physical hunger and if it’s not fed properly – the relationship will struggle. Women must look to understand the needs of the man from his perspective not hers.

3) Respect. A good wife will try to treat her man with respect. How? Much of learning how to be respectful toward your husband has to do with the way you talk to him. The old phrase “It’s not so much what you say but how you say it” should become a wife’s motto. This doesn’t mean you need to be careful what you say to your husband – just be respectful in the way you say it.

2) Communicate. Ironically, good communication between men and women can be quite frustrating. However, a good wife will seek to discover what’s on her mind and find a way to express herself to her husband. Often, men and women will make a joint decision – while the man thinks she’s in agreement with him – but only to discover later that she thought the decision was a bad idea.

1) Pleasant. Work to be pleasant toward your husband. Don’t be one of those people who makes everyone around you feel bad just because you’ve had a hard day. Good things will come from being pleasant. It’s a decision – just decide to be pleasant. But if you can’t be pleasant – make a decision not to bring him down with you.

E Lawrence Welch

Marriage & Love Blog

Monday, May 21, 2007

Love & Marriage Book Library (our recommendations)

When we find a love and marriage type book we believe would be beneficial to you – we’ll post it here in our love & marriage book library. Enjoy reading and remember to tell us your thoughts.

You can find the other marriage and love books we like in this store.





The following book is a great book about Love Languages. It's a MUST READ for any husband / wife who desires a better relationship / marriage.



Thursday, May 17, 2007

Love Poem on Your Mind?

Love poem - looking to write one or maybe locate one? Whether you’re looking to find a love poem or write one – read a few tips below – writing a love poem is not as hard as you might think and the rewards aren’t easily measured.

A love poem is one of the most awesome ways to express love to that special person. Receiving a love poem is one of the greatest feelings in the world. Love poems need not be long, short, good, bad or ugly in order to work. You’ll just have to trust my experience on this one. Additionally, love poems are not very often used by men to express love. When I met my wife (she was age 29) she had never received a love poem - written specially for her – during 13 years of dating.

First, a love poem does not need to be well written. Generally, women and men appreciate receiving a simple, thoughtful, from-the-heart, personalized love poem and could care less about its quality. In other words, just write it and give it to he/she – it need not be very good – she’ll/he’ll love it anyway. Give it a try.

Short and simple love poems work best for me. When I say short and simple, I’m talking about 8 to 10 lines. In my experience, a love poem longer than that won’t get written. Pick out a few personal things about that special person and write cute little lines about it. Make it rhyme if you want, but don’t think too much about it – you won’t be able to write it.

Lastly, take a look at the love poem below – originally written for my wife. It’s cute, simple, from-the-heart and takes no talent to write. Also, I could care less whether it’s a “proper” poem from a “poetry” perspective. Don’t worry about studying “poetry” or writing a poem “correctly”. Forget all that stuff you learned in school and just write. After all, the point is to express love to that special someone – not win a poetry award. Give it a try – you will not regret it.

A Gift to Sherri

Sherri my wife, you are my life
With eyes of kindness – you help me walk without blindness

Sherri my love, you were sent from above
How wonderful you are to give me your love

Holding you near
Fills my heart with cheer

Sherri my dove
You fill my heart with everlasting love