Internet Dating – 5 Essentials

Internet dating can be an exciting and effective way to meet the love of your life. Approximately ten years ago – I met my wife of today via internet dating. Back then, internet dating was only beginning. Take a look at these five internet dating essentials – they can help you connect with that special person.

1) Make sure you know who’s at the other end of the internet dating computer. Although this is easier said than done – you can follow a few simple guidelines. Stick with the more reputable companies, look for inconsistencies in the things they tell you and go with your gut instincts.

2) If you’re serious about turning this internet dating experience into a serious relationship – you’ve got to be brutally honest. The last thing you need is for that special person to find out something “surprising” about you a year into the relationship. My wife and I made a game out of it – we would think of ten negative things about ourselves and share them, etc. The point is, you have a great opportunity to use internet dating to truly get to know someone on the inside – and vice versa – so be truthful and open up.

3) Don’t try to find a perfect “paper match”. Sure, I’ve heard about all the internet dating, scientific matchmaking profiles and such and I think it’s great. However, don’t be afraid to venture out and learn about people that might not be as close a match as you would like. My wife had some things in her profile that didn’t make any sense to me.

4) Internet dating can create a lot of unrealistic expectations so you must be careful with them. For example, it’s easy to formulate an image of a person entirely different than he/she. It’s important to keep your expectations as close to reality as possible.

5) When the time comes for that first face to face meeting you must keep a few things in mind. Be safe, there are a lot of nuts in the internet dating arena - so you’ve got to be safe first. Next, be yourself, after all, you’ve gotten the hard part out of the way – you know each other inside and out. If you’ve been brutally honest – you don’t need to worry about trying to be someone you’re not. Follow these simple steps and you can have fun and rewards with internet dating.

E Law

Sexy Body – How do Men Really Feel?

Sexy body here, a sexy body there – everywhere you look – someone is telling you to get a sexy body and promising great rewards. Ladies, don’t waist your time striving for that sexy body - there’s good news and some basic things you need to learn about men.

First, men will always respond positively to a woman with a sexy body – it’s really not even a choice we have. When we see a woman with a sexy body – it’s hard not to notice. But MANY other things are more important to us. Don’t let yourself be deceived by the billion dollar “sexy body” industry. There are other characteristics men would rather find in a woman or wife than a “sexy body”. Take a look at these five:

1) Stay fit and healthy. Men like women who exercise and stay fit – it shows you care about yourself, builds your self esteem and gives you confidence. All of which make you look better in his eyes. Just forget about the quest for that sexy body.

2) A woman with a strong desire to please her man in bed will look more sexy - in his eyes - than a babe with a super sexy body. Try it, lose your inhibitions and make your bedroom a place where his fantasies come true.

3) Lose the “I’m tired” stuff - everyone is tired – him too. When you’re chronically negative – for whatever reason – you will look less desirable in his eyes. Have you ever known an older woman (age 50 or so) who always seemed to act like she was in her 30’s? Men like that – work on acting younger he’ll begin to see you like you really do have a sexy body.

4) Men would rather be in a relationship with a woman who shows him true respect and admiration than with a blond babe sporting a super sexy body. It’s true, you’ll be looking like you’ve got a sexy body – in his eyes – when you show him true respect.

5) Often, women with a sexy body are quite devoted to themselves. After all, it takes a lot of work to maintain that look. Don’t be deceived, men grow tired of women who are only interested in themselves and how they look. Don’t misunderstand, it’s important that you take pride in your appearance, but don’t let it consume you – it will grow old in your man’s eyes.

E Lawrence Welch

Marriage and Love Blog