Are you a pregnant wife – looking to help your husband through this difficult time? Maybe your wife is pregnant? Maybe you need to understand her a little better? Regardless, this article offers a few thoughts on pregnant wives and why we husbands need to “cut them some slack”.
Only those women who are or have been pregnant truly know the challenges of pregnancy. Your wife will rapidly cycle through more physical, mental and emotional changes during pregnancy than perhaps any other time in her life. For this reason, she needs the understanding and support of her husband now more than ever.
Pregnant women often feel sick, good, sad, fearful, happy and angry all at the same time. Unfortunately, they’re not even able to help themselves (for the most part). They might feel fat, ugly, uncomfortable, needy and sad. If you’re like I was during the two pregnancies of my loving wife – I never knew what would be the next “problem” – but it was certain those “problems” would come - one after another.
More than anything, she needs your unconditional love, support and understanding. She might have never experienced physical difficulties before in her life. Now she might be experiencing daily sickness, hemorrhoids hanging like marbles and severe emotional swings. No two women experience pregnancy the same and rarely does the same woman experience it the same during two separate pregnancies.
Sex might be good for a while or it might be non-existent. You might go from having sex once a night to none at all. Perhaps the doctor has recommended you abstain from sex because of certain risks, etc? Regardless, be prepared for a time of challenge for both of you. Keep holding her hand, continue to reassure her and let her know that you love her just as much now as you did "back then".
Perhaps the most important consideration is that the husband and wife look to understand each other during this challenging time. The more you understand each other (particularly the husbands understanding the wife) – the better you’ll make the situation. Don’t become frustrated with one another – just keep talking, keep on communicating and work to be a part of the solution – not the problem.
Keep this time in perspective, focus on the birth of your child and the joy that little baby will bring – don’t let challenging times drag each other down. There will be better days ahead.
E Lawrence Welch
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